Taking Ownership is the Key to Healing
Last week, I was talking with some members of the community, and expressed that one of the relatively few hesitations I have about looking toward the Tennessee Cumberlands as a location for our proposed monastic centre is that the area, while offering the opportunity for a more simple, meditative and quiet life, lacked proximity to urban centres, where so much of our work is done.
One of the folks responded, pointing out that there are hungry and homeless people everywhere, and that Knoxville is only 30-minutes from the area we are talking about. So I pulled up some demographics, and showed them that the area we’re looking at is starkly missing some real cultural diversity. The percentage of Black and Hispanic persons in that area is so low, I almost thought we had accidentally pulled up the demographics for a Rhode Island community!
“Well you don’t want the monastery to be in a high crime area, do you?” one woman asked.
Now this is a woman who would seem to be among the most culturally-open, warm and service-oriented people you’ll ever meet. She has taken care of six month-old crack babies with me, whose mothers died or were dying of AIDS. She has helped me deliver meals to the homeless in some of the most underprivileged areas of Atlanta, Miami and Los Angeles. So we would not consider her to be “prejudiced”, right?
This morning, one of my friends and colleagues, Wanda McCrae – a talented New York artist – pointed out the importance of considering that there remains (among other issues we need to address, in my opinion) a subtle discriminatory undercurrent in our societal mindset, which continues to keep people marginalised, based on their colour, their socio-economic status and (I would add) our perceptions about “crime”.
Citing studies that were recently done, to examine the longterm effects of having one or both parents incarcerated, a New York Times article tells us, doubles the chance that child will end up homeless, and increases the likelihood of aggressive behaviours.
Each of us is a potential criminal. Each of us possesses the same potential for allowing our negative emotions and misperceptions to lead us toward making unhealthy and damaging choices. We need to recognise this first and foremost, because criminal behaviour has nothing to do with race or ethnicity, colour of one’s skin or socio-economic status.
Why are there an overwhelmingly large number of Black people in our prisons? Well, anyone who is honest with themselves about this question will have to admit that it has far less to do with a particular group of people being more involved in criminal behaviour than it reflects the inadequacy and prejudices of a system that discriminates against particular groups of people, and oppresses them.
If we want to classify a particular group of people as being more prone toward criminal behaviour, then we need to look at all the data, and it’s not Black or Hispanic people who make up the majority of people in prison, but Christians. Ah! Suddenly, isolating statistics out of context makes us uncomfortable, eh? Well then why doesn’t it make you uncomfortable when someone does the same thing, based on race?
It’s called subtle discrimination…
Those we call criminals have simply succumbed to ignorance, anger, desire and fear – just as each of us has done innumerable times in our own lives, but to different degrees. Speaking on the need for compassion for those in prison, His Holiness the Fourteenth Dalai Lama writes:
“Society should not reject those who have committed mistakes and who are branded criminals. They are full-fledged human beings who are members of society just as we are, and they, too, can change. It is imperative to give them back hope and the will to take a new direction in life.”
I think that we have to look at the fact that the phenomenon of parental imprisonment has only emerged as a pandemic in America – therefore we must confront the possibility that there is something wrong with our criminal justice system – where the burden of justice is thrown on the shoulders of the police officers, the courts and the jails, rather than supporting the men and women who serve our society in these important roles, by working to create a more compassionate, tolerant, non-violent and encouraging society before such unhealthy and illegal behaviours become the only apparent choice for some folks to make.
Statistically speaking, the majority of persons in prison in the United States are from a lower educational background. So why are we not working harder to provide community services to educate and help more folks gain a hand-up?
A difficult economic downturn impacts all of us, but can be devastating to a low-income, uneducated person, whose menial jobs are seen by the wealthier middle- and upper-class as being “luxury” expenses, and are therefore among the first to be cut. When you or your kids are hungry, it’s a lot more tempting to steal a loaf of bread. And when it comes right down to it, the risk of stealing a loaf of bread or a colour TV is about equal… so why not steal the television, so that you can afford 30-50 loaves of bread?
According to the New York Times article, among those born in 1990, one in four black children, compared with one in 25 white children, had a father in prison by age 14. Risk is concentrated among black children whose parents are high-school dropouts; half of those children had a father in prison, compared with one in 14 white children with dropout parents, according to a report by Dr. Wildeman recently published in the journal Demography. This was a significant increase over those born just a decade earlier.
Also cited was the fact that among 5-year-old urban boys, 49 percent of those who had a father incarcerated within the previous 30-months exhibited physically aggressive behaviours like hitting others or destroying objects, compared with 38 percent of those in otherwise similar circumstances who did not have a father imprisoned.
This issue, like many others, which I believe are interconnected, are areas in which we must look within ourselves to see if there are subtle currents of racial, ethnic or social discrimination at work in our own minds, which negatively contribute to our society. Remember, the world we experience is a reflection of what’s going on inside our own “monkey minds”.
To the more simple-minded, my reflections on what was most disturbing in the histrionics and dramatics surrounding Michael Jackson’s death was nothing more than a “rant” at best, and an “unfair characterisation of their poor, unappreciated superhero”. Some even went so far as to stop their own grossly self-indulgent, unhealthy and dramatic activities to delete me from their Facebook, email and LiveJournal “friends lists”, because I dared ask questions that made them uncomfortable. Others simply deleted the tough questions and reflections, choosing to engage in the blogging version of what Fox News calls “reporting”.
But for me, those issues were about bringing to the forefront of my own awareness some of the issues I need to confront myself. The outer experience always reflects what’s going on interiorly. Period. And if there were histrionics and hostilities flying about in the blogosphere, I was certain that there had to be areas of histrionic behaviours in my mind, that needed to be examined, confronted and released. (That was a major factor in my decision to take a few days away, and really spend some quiet time looking at areas that needed to be addressed.)
And it was a major factor in my resolution to try to find a way to return to the Greater Washington, D.C. area – where the work of the Contemplative Monks of the Eightfold Path, and my own personal work, can do the most good toward contributing to the support, education, compassionate care and empowerment of those we’ve continued to oppress for too long.
For the community, it means developing a core group of benefactors and funding sources to provide us with the necessary $4800/month needed for the operation of the Dharma Centre and ladrang (residence) in the heart of the Inner City. And I believe that is something that is very much attainable for us, since it would mean finding just 160 people, who were willing to contribute just $1/day toward the project. It would also be possible for us to find an angel benefactor, who would provide us with the necessary $800 to start the ball rolling for us to do the legal groundwork to make it possible for our community to get necessary grant-funding to support the project – something we’ve avoided relying on for the past 29 years.
And for me personally, it means returning to the areas in which I personally felt the most fully immersed in the work I am called to do spiritually, socially and secularly, while creating an environment in which the ability to focus more on writing and teaching becomes possible.
What about you? Are there areas in your life in which subtle discriminations – maybe not racial discrimination, but ethnic, religious, socio-economic, gender or sexual-orientation based discriminations creep into your subconscious, and contribute adversely to building a better world?
In the Christian mythos, the author of Isaiah notes, “A bruised reed he will not break, nor a dimly lit wick he will not quench.” (Isaiah 42:3)
This metaphoric description of the higher-nature is a useful illustration of what we call “keeping a mindful watch over your heart” in the Dharma. Without this mindfulness and introspection, one could become careless with one’s speech or thoughts. Abba Orsisius of the Desert taught: “A lamp produces light when it has oil and a trimmed wick. One may light the lamp without a supply of oil, but it will burn away and shadows will gradually come.”