Ask the Monk – Questions about gurus and teachers
This week’s question, "I’ve seen a lot of press about self-proclaimed gurus, spiritual teachers and self-help ‘experts’, who seem to either be in it for the money, or on some kind of cultish power-trip. How do you recommend spotting such people, and protecting yourself from them?"
As it happens, I am very familiar with the person about whom this reader is asking, and for that reason, decided to protect their identity.
Unfortunately, there are no shortages of gurus, spiritual teachers, self-proclaimed lamas and "enlightened masters" out there, particularly in the West. And although I personally consider the behaviour of such individuals as predatory, I also believe that we have to see this for what it is, and realise that the reason such things occur more prevalently in the West is because we expect instant gratification. So we embolden the con-artists, the hucksters and the opportunistic personality-types to do their level best to take us for all we’re worth.
There are also two other brief points that need to be made, I believe, before I answer the heart of the question:
First, there are some individuals who suffer from psychological behavioural disorders. These individuals may be megalomaniacal, delusional, bi-polar or suffer from borderline personality disorders. Their need for attention, power and submission often overtakes what might have initially been an intention to do good or to serve. These are the most dangerous individuals out there, and although not all of them will lead their disciples down the road that Jim Jones led his followers, the emotional and psychological damage they inflict can often be many more times as dangerous.
Second, there are those who are simply self-serving grifters, who see a needy potential "student", and choose to "suck ‘em dry" of every cent they can get. These are petty, small-minded people who suffer from tremendous lack of self esteem, and little trust in the givingness of life. They are less dangerous, but ought to still be avoided.
Now, let me say this… In the West, the whole concept of guru is largely misunderstood. A guru is a teacher, not unlike any other spiritual teacher. Despite what they would often like you to believe, few, if any of them, are enlightened. Surely, they may possess a better understanding of the spiritual path, and may have more experience in the practice, but they are not enlightened. So the first piece of advice I will give you is that any time someone tells you that they are going to "give you enlightenment" or "take you to god" with a tap of a peacock feather, a glance or a "magic word", expect that they are entirely full of shit, and get out of there quietly, when the dog and pony show is over. No guru has the ability to "take you to god" or give you enlightenment, because it’s not theirs to "give". Such absurd acts are born out of a delusional and dualistic mindset. All that you need, you already possess. No one can unlock it but you.
Kahlil Gibran wrote: "No one can reveal to you anything but that which already lies half asleep in the dawning of your knowledge."
Next, I would suggest that the teacher who expects anyone to submit themselves blindly to what he or she says is no teacher at all. A true guru or lama or spiritual teacher will always welcome questions, and will openly answer them. A true teacher will not demand anything of his or her students, without demanding the same or more of themselves… and not just when it’s convenient for a photo opp, but when no one else seems to be looking! If a teacher expects one to submit wholly to their control, don’t wait until a convenient time to walk away… get up immediately and run, dragging anyone else who will come with you out of that dangerous environment! Love is never controlling, and whatever is not love is not sacred.
If a spiritual teacher tells you, or if their "inner circle" tells you that outside of that teaching, people are lost, asleep, dead or damned. They are completely delusional as well. Get out before you find out that the only "lost" ones are the ones who are susceptible to such cult-like programming.
In my own experience, I find that it is helpful not to have expectations of those gurus, lamas and spiritual teachers whose paths cross ours. I have been fortunate, and remain fortunate to have learned much from those individuals I consider to be my teachers. Sometimes, what I have learned most from them has had nothing to do with the words that come out of their mouths, but from what I’ve observed in the way they conduct themselves and teach. Some of those teachers have been considered to be the "embodiment of the gods or goddesses" their students seek to emulate. I respect the right of others to believe such things, but believe that "gods and goddesses" are only useful as metaphors, and therefore, if one expects me to believe that this guru or that embodies a metaphor, so be it.
Each of us is an emanation of Divine Love. No one has "more of it" or "less of it" (although there are some things I’ve suspected some of these teachers were more full of than others… but it wasn’t a divine quality!)
My students recognise me as a lama — a Tibetan word for teacher. Other students see me as the retired archbishop and exarch of a radical branch of successors to the apostles. I see myself as a monk… a simple, unenlightened monastic on a journey, who has committed himself to the vows that he will do whatever he can to alleviate suffering in all sentient beings, lifetime after lifetime, until there exists no more suffering.
I don’t expect anyone to blindly follow what I teach. I don’t give "orders" to the monks entrusted to my care. I can’t give anyone enlightenment, but can encourage them to know that all they need for enlightenment lies within them, awaiting the slightest awakening, by shifting their awareness.
As a result of this, when I have reached out for help from some, I have been rejected. Because of this, my work has often been the subject of attempts to malign and discredit it. And because of this, I could easily be days away from losing everything. But at the end of the day, I can experience the true joy of a grateful heart, which knows that I have done the best I could, harming none intentionally, and expecting nothing in return.
I would conclude my answer by pointing out something attributed as having been taught by the Buddha to his first students. In the Mahayana tradition, we call these the Four Reliances, and they will serve you well in your pursuit and practice of the spiritual path:
(1) reliance on the teaching, not the teacher;
(2) reliance on the meaning, not the words that express it;
(3) reliance on the definitive meaning, not on the provisional meaning; and
(4) reliance on the transcendent wisdom of deep experience, not on mere knowledge.
Namasté
khenpo gurudas sunyatananda
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Drawing on the essential teachings of the great spiritual teachers, philosophers and freethinkers throughout time, Khenpo Gurudas Śunyatananda (retired Archbishop Francis-Maria Salvato, O.C.) has been regarded as a provocative, revolutionary “voice of reason” within the field of religion and spirituality, since 1983. Having the distinction of being one of the few openly non-theistic, openly-gay and post-denominational thinkers ever to serve as Bishop-Exarch and spiritual leader of the autocephalic Eastern Catholic Franciscans in North America, Gurudas is the author of more than 600 articles, eight books and currently serves as the spiritual advisor for a non-theistic, intentional spiritual community, The Spiritus Project. He can be reached at: http://dharmadudeunplugged.com
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What do we do, when we encounter someone whose behaviours demonstrate a lack of maturity, compassion or balance? This past weekend, there have been some wonderful discussions going on between friends, members of the Sangha and students, concerning this very topic.
Several people have asked me to elaborate more on what I meant by the word "tonglen", in my request for students of the Dharma of Compassion, and all those who are sincerely interested in healing the violence and oppression in Tibet to join us each night for a minimum of one hour of undistracted sitting.
My friend, who was also a very spiritual and sincere man, would often talk about the Ego being "nothing". A lot of energy was spent, it seemed, on denying the existence of his Ego. That wasn’t very useful. The Ego is something that exists "relatively". As long as we believe that there is some Higher Self, something greater that exists separate from us, we are chained to the Ego. The Ego can only exist as long as we are focused on the phenomenon of this Higher Self — regardless of whether our focus is one which believes in the higher self or disbelieves in it. It’s not something that has an inherent existence. The moment, however, that we cease to segregate ourselves from the external, the Ego and the Higher Self cease to exist. 
Spiritual growth is the action of Life itself. When we begin to truly embrace the truth that nothing separates us from what some might call “God”, and what others recognise as an impersonal field of energy – a Creative and Universal Intelligence — our experience mirrors that realisation. Peace, healing, satisfaction and calm begin to flood our experiences, because we have chosen to advance from faith into understanding.
Few of us read the Harry Potter series with a belief in flying brooms, house elves or centaurs — even those of us for whom magick is a very real and a serious part of our spiritual paths. We understood that the laws of nature don’t work that way, and that the flying brooms and mythical creatures were part of the fantasy.
Some people have mistakenly interpreted the message of The Secret to say that they can create whatever they want. Admittedly, part of that misconception comes from some of the imagery used to illustrate the way the Law of Attraction works in such a short film. The little boy looks at a picture of a bicycle and presto, some old dude shows up at his back door with a new bike in the following scene. But this notion of simply getting whatever we want is spiritually and intellectually immature. (I guess I am the only one whose initial thought was that the kid should have immediately checked the sexual predator registry on the Internet, before opening that door… but I digress!)
Those of us on the feral wisdom path of the Dharma of Compassion are akin to the Bauls, to Francis d’Assisi and Neem Karoli Baba… to Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche,